文 / 性福導師 朱瓊茹
在網路化時代的我們,「性」不再是隱而不言,反而會借助網路的力量進行探索與學習。但,有些網站的性觀念與知識是錯誤的,這樣反而容易混淆視聽,無法消除性迷思。對此,我整理了臨床問診最常出現的5大性迷思,一起為大家解開這道「需要又重要」的情慾密碼。
下為2016年,臨床問診統計出的男性5大性迷思:
1.常自慰容易得到性功能障礙?
我看到網路上有人說,常打手槍會早洩,所以我克制自己一個月只打一次,但跟女友做愛還是很快就射精,怎會這樣?(小歐,21 歲,大學生)
我經常自慰,朋友說這樣會「敗腎」,還會變成「快槍俠」,太好色容易有問題...(阿榮,22 歲,服務業)
導師解碼:
自慰是正常又能緩解慾望的方式,與性功能障礙沒有因果關係。因每個人的情慾高低不同,無法量化去制訂所謂的「標準次數」。所以,只要不影響生活、工作、身體或精神狀態,想自慰幾次,就自在享受。其實自慰行為本身是無害的,真正會影響導致生病的:是對自慰所產生的自責、罪惡感、焦慮和恐懼的心理!!
2.做愛時間至少要半小時以上,女人才會高潮?
A片的男優都做很久,片長至少一個小時,過程中女優一直叫,還會潮吹,我也有學男優一直持續的抽插,但我女友後來卻喊痛,要我停?(ok哥,28 歲,軍人)
上次有找小姐,她服務算不錯,會先跟我聊天,聊完後兩個人一直做到時間到,但我還沒射精,當下感覺她陰道很鬆,而且她的叫聲「啊~嗯~啊嗯~」的,感覺很假,她真的有高潮嗎?(菊花,31 歲,自由業)
導師解碼:
做愛時間太久反而像是「床上運動」,不僅耗體力累了自己也弄痛對方,一點品質也沒有。有些男人為了要證明自己極佳的性能力,拚了命的「做」,卻忘了對方的感受,這像是一場捍衛男人尊嚴的表演,沒有感覺的性,對方能高潮嗎?建議多花些時間滿足女性各方面感官的享受,也許在探索身體的過程中,就能開發新的愉悅體驗。
3.女人喜歡快、猛、用力撞的啪啪啪?
之前交過一個金髮妹,身材F罩杯,她好色,時常半夜偷襲我,有幾次被她搞得精疲力盡,因她很愛叫我動快一點、用力插,天啊!跟她做愛真累!反觀現在這位女友,卻說我很粗暴,她不喜歡,女人真的很多變...(馬克,30 歲,服務業)
上次去酒吧,跟一個女的一夜情,為了突顯我「性能強」,沒有調情,直接一硬就上,我知道女人喜歡粗暴一點的!男人就是要壞、有Guts,女人才愛!(玩家,32 歲,服務業)
導師解碼:
在性愛裡,每個人都有自己喜歡的嗜好與模式,剛開始交往,兩人需要多次性愛交流來瞭解與熟悉彼此,因為你不清楚她要的是什麼,想當然爾她也一樣,所以學習當個貼心伴侶,試著引導對方說出喜歡或不喜歡的有哪些?什麼方式、技巧是舒服的?力道的大小輕重?我相信,有這樣的溫柔與體貼更能讓彼此感情加溫。
4.女人都愛「大老二」,太小太細會沒人要?
我到現在沒交過女友,A片的男優老二都很大,我根本小巫見大巫,上廁所哪敢排排站,丟臉死了!老二這麼小,交不到女友是正常的?!(吳先生,41 歲,收費員)
跟老婆做愛,從沒感覺她有高潮過,為了滿足她,聽朋友的建議去手術裝「入珠八顆」,後來很後悔,因為老婆喊痛...(B哥,38 歲,自營商)
導師解碼:
有些男人長期受到A片誤導,認為裡面的男優尺寸是「正常值」,在缺乏正確知識與觀念下,導致自我質疑進而影響了真正的性愛表現。事實上,影片中的男優,為了老二外觀「好看、雄壯」也付出不少金錢去吃藥、手術整形,就是要爭取多次演出機會與好的酬勞,所以可別把演戲當真了。
從醫學角度來看,陰莖完全勃起尺寸如果小於7公分以下,就要檢查是否有包莖或萎縮等問題,這就要注意。如果沒有就不需要過度焦慮,因為女人陰道前段1/3靠近陰道口處,神經比較多容易有快感,後段神經較少,因此陰莖較長或粗跟高潮沒有直接關係,最重要的是學會「找對」女人喜歡的方式與敏感帶,才是美滿性生活的關鍵。
5.每天都要打手槍是不是性成癮?
看到穿低胸或短裙露腿的女生,都會亂想,很容易興奮,回家就會自慰,這樣會不會有病?(小佑,20 歲,學生)
我的慾望很高,每天都要打手槍一次,網路上說這是「性成癮」,那該怎麼處理?我還年輕不想要吃藥...(小天,18 歲,學生)
導師解碼:「性成癮」在精神病分類手冊中,並未列入,這是個「偽概念」。正確措詞,是「強迫性的性行為」,患者會無法抑止性行為,而使生活失去控制的狀態。所以如果沒有造成身心靈失衡,一天打一次手槍是不需要擔心的。別再把恐懼放大,導向正確、健康的觀念,才能輕鬆、自在享受性愉悅。
本文經授權轉載自相性幸福健康管理中心(原標題:男女做愛半小時以上,女人才會高潮?男人的「5大性愛謠言」大解密)
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